Note: I am probably not fully researched in this topic, but I’ve seen it quite a bit lately around tumblr, and have done enough research I believe to have an opinion on the subject.
So the term “cis” is basically short for some longer word that means, you accept the gender you were born in, and are content living your life as such. Right? That’s what I understand of it.
And then there’s the term “trans”, which, in light terms, means that you were born with the gender that you are uncomfortable in, and you feel you do not identify as said gender.
Okay.
There’s been a lot of back and forth on tumblr that I’ve seen about the term “die cis scum”, and the way people react to it, and talk about it… I just don’t understand.
I myself, was born female, and like being female, and believe yeah, I’ll probably be female for my entire life. I’m content being female. I don’t feel as though I should have been male, or anything. I was born female, that’s what I’ve grown into, and that’s what I am okay with.
Therefore, I apparently fit into the category of “cis”.
I am also, as it would seem at this point in time, “straight”. Though, I like to think of myself is pansexual (I realized long ago when I fell right down for one of my female friends, that it didn’t matter their gender, I’m both sexually and mentally attracted to all genders, whoever I happened to fall in love with, was who I’d love. I had no desire to go around sleeping with different genders, nor did I have the desire to really “experiment”. I’ve always found different things about each one attractive, etcetc…) I am currently in a happy and healthy relationship with a male. I have also thought more about being “labeled” as “straight” because of my future goals: I would like to be, in the long run, a housewife and mother. Of course, there are always options to do so if I were in a same sex relationship when I decided that was who I’d like to be with for the rest of my life, blah blah, but my mind and heart says I’d like to be traditional, have the two genetics completely mix, and have my own children, as opposed to adoption, or other crazy scientific ways of having children. It appeals to me, and always has.
Anyway, enough about me.
This whole “die cis scum” thing. I’ve seen people say stuff about it, saying things like “well, don’t think it doesn’t apply to you because you’re a cis but you don’t think your scum, because all of you are because you AREN’T trans”, etc etc.
What? Wait. So… because I’m content with my gender, and am okay with how my body and mind work together… I’m scum? Even though I fully support and understand (to my maximum capacity) LGBTQ people?
I don’t understand that.
Yes, there are MANY “cis” people that have constantly over the years smashed against the community of LGBTQ, and I believe they are ignorant. I feel that they are not open minded, they like to be in control, are republicans, bible pushers, etc whatever. But not ALL “cis” people do that? MANY “cis” people fight FOR the LGBTQ side in arguments like this.
I have also seen people saying “the trans people are a MINORITY, and MINORITIES have to stand up for themselves and fight against the people in POWER”, etc.
This one, I don’t really know what to say, other than… if you look at yourself as a minority, you’ll perceive yourself as being treated as such, expecting special treatment, and more respect.
Though I may be not as knowledgeable about “genders” other than male and female, but this is the way I’ve always looked at trans through explanations from a few trans people:
The term “trans” in transgender means “transition”. To label yourself as “trans” merely states that you are transitioning from one gender, to another, and after the transition is complete, you are labeled whatever it is that you have transitioned over to, whether it be male or female.
If you don’t feel comfortable being referred to with a specific name or gender, then take the steps you need to to change that. I don’t know all that it takes, but I have seen it done. Take the time, effort and (unfortunately), money that it would require to get your name changed, to get your gender marker changed, to have surgery if you want, to take the medicine needed to assist your body in transitioning as well. There are things you can do, and if where you are currently at bothers you so much, take the steps to be comfortable.
Do not decide to think “Oh. Well, I’m different, so everyone who’s “normal” hates me.”
And DO NOT think “They all hate me, so I’m going to hate on them.”
Fighting fire with fire will get you know where. Be the bigger person.
In the end, why do we all feel the need to ever LABEL ourselves?
- cis
- trans
- male
- female
- gay
- straight
- bi
- lesbian
- pan
- black
- white
- asian
- insert whatever other gender/sexuality/race term here
Why do we have all those? Why must we specify a label for ourselves, and why does said label define who we are, what we stand up for, who we like, and how we think?
Why can’t we all for once just be people?
Why can’t anyone ever just accept things as they are, and get over it?
And that goes for EVERYONE and ANY opinion.
That guy likes guys. Oh, okay.
That guy likes girls. Oh, okay.
That girl likes girls. Oh, okay.
That girl likes guys. Oh, okay.
That girl feels like a guy. Oh, okay.
That guy feels like a girl. Oh, okay.
That girl likes guys and girls. Oh, okay.
That guy likes guys and girls. Oh, okay.
That man has darker skin than us. Oh, okay.
That woman his lighter skin than us. Oh, okay.
OH, OKAY.
Why can’t that just be the end of everything? Why is there always constant fighting over things that… quite frankly, shouldn’t matter. Let people live how they want, minority or majority. If it’s not affecting YOU, get over it.
/done.
I wonder if I’ll get hate for posting a completely unorganized, logical and neutral opinion that I just typed mindlessly for ten minutes onto my personal blog? Hmm.
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